Wait–No, I don’t mean a squished-down pillow or rug.
I’m talking about overused words.
See, lately I’ve heard myself saying “I love…” about practically everything.
I love this song!
I love your dress!
I love that house!
I love pizza!
Oh, really?
The truth is, I love God, my husband, my family, and my friends. I love a variety of people in a variety of ways. My feelings toward any of the people in my life are not the same as my feelings toward any of the things I see or own.
By using “love” as a generic positive response to everything, I was trivializing my affection toward God and people. And in a sense, I was elevating that “stuff” to the same level as people.
But paradoxically, a generic “I love…” also blunts my appreciation of those little things I claim to love. I mean, it takes no thought to produce a habitual, go-to response. Why not be more specifically thankful for things?
So I’m working on being more accurate and specific…
Before: I love that song.
Now: I enjoy that song.
More specific: The vocal harmonies sound really good.
Before: I love your house!
Now: I admire your house.
More specific: The color scheme and furniture arrangement are calm and welcoming.
I don’t always itemize everything I like about something–at least, not out loud. That sort of overexplaining would just annoy people. But just being aware of what I enjoy about different things makes me appreciate them all the more.
Just some thoughts. I hope you “love” them.
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Thanks for reading,
Jan
good reminder
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Glad you found it useful! I always appreciate your stopping by.
Best,
Jan
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I need to be reminded of this, Thanks for your advice
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With me it’s the ‘well’ and the ‘anyway.’ Well, I’m not sure why I do it. Anyway, I’ll try to stop. Uhuh, the wells and the anyways get me every time.
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Haha, you remind me of a college friend, who referred to one of his professors as “Dr. Well, Basically”
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Haha! That’s priceless!
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